How to maintain your identity as a stay-at-home mom. A SHAMs true confession.

The secrets behind being a happy stay-at-home mom. Yes you heard me! you CAN be happy and find staying at home enjoyable but it wont happen naturally. If anything, you will know from experience or other moms would have told you. It is actually more natural to become isolated, depressed, sad, anxious, lost, burnt out when you become a stay at home mom. So in order not to get caught in that web and that web get so tangled you need special forces to get you out. Please do the following things constantly and you will find joy.

1. Dont lose your connection with God. keep praying, reading your bible. I know for me when I am in a bad mood. The last thing I want to do is talk to anyone, not even God! But when I finally do I feel so much lighter and hopeful.
2. Dont let go of your village. Your siblings, friends, prayer groups are so essential in your life. It may be so difficult navigating relationships. People are not perfect and you cannot expect them to be. Only God can meet that standard of perfection in your life. So when you think people fall short give them that Grace and let go. Open up to them give them the chance to apologise or talk it through. Don’t cut off relationships because you got hurt. You will only get more isolated.
3. Don’t forget the things that made you happy before you became a mom.
4. Don’t try to be like others. There will always be someone better than you. Instead of pushing yourself to be like someone, you should set your own standard and live in your lane. You have been given the grace to do something special to your own level of quality. Do your very best and God ill do the rest. Ex starting a business, parenting..
5. Dont sweep things under the carpet. Deal with them when they happen so they dont grow bitter fruit and contaminate your life and that of the people around you.
6. Don’t hate yourself. Love yourself, warts and all. Easier said than done but you can only be the best you. You bring a special flavour to the world that no one else does. Whatever your mind tells you, you are beautiful. You are worthy. You are capable. From now on any time you hear voices in your mind. Ask yourself is this true? does my husband really hate me? Is my face the ugliest in the world? Do people really dislike me? even if your answers end up being yes. Say to yourself, and so what!?